Getting to 50/50 en Two men and a baby: Navigating parenting and partnership in a two-dad family <p dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;">&nbsp;</p><p></p><p dir="ltr" id="docs-internal-guid-327b9e5e-dbf0-dfea-e611-b8a410b0147d" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;"><span style="font-size:19px;font-family:Arial;color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:normal;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;">When Amos and Mickey Lim met in 1995, they had no idea they would someday have a daughter together. It just didn’t seem possible. They lived an ocean away from each other, and didn’t know if they would ever even meet face-to-face. That’s because they first connected online, on a gay discussion group. </span></p><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;"><span style="font-size:19px;font-family:Arial;color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:normal;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;">“Someone was talking about long-term relationships, how there’s no such thing as long-term relationships,” Amos says. “Probably because we don’t see the role models out there.” Wed, 29 Jan 2014 03:11:41 +0000 Jen Chien 38979 at Two men and a baby: Navigating parenting and partnership in a two-dad family Balancing being Mommy and Nanny <p dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;">&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;">&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;"><span style="font-size:19px;font-family:Arial;color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:normal;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;">Lupita Espinoza can often be seen pushing a stroller up one of those steep San Francisco hills that many of us try to avoid. She can’t avoid it, though -- it’s the way to work.</span></p><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;"><span style="font-size:19px;font-family:Arial;color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:normal;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;">“I am very lucky that I have a nice family -- they have been flexible with me,” she says.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.15;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;"><span style="font-size:19px;font-family:Arial;color:#000000;background-color:transparent;font-weight:normal;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;text-decoration:none;vertical-align:baseline;">She looks after two children at once, both 3-year-olds, a girl and a boy. Today she’s taken them to Precita Park, near their house, to play in the sandbox. Lupita is the little girl’s nanny; the little boy is her son, Orlando. She brings him along while she works. Since her own child is getting some of her attention, the girl’s parents pay her less than they might otherwise. </span></p><p> Wed, 29 Jan 2014 01:42:34 +0000 Leila Day 38978 at Balancing being Mommy and Nanny A father reflects on the daily realities of parenting as a team <p><span style="line-height: 1.5;">Living a balanced life requires an early morning for </span>KALW's<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> executive news editor Ben </span>Trefny<span style="line-height: 1.5;">. It takes getting up before </span>6am<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> to prepare lunch, and then breakfast, for his family, and that's just the start. In this commentary, he reflects upon the efforts he and his working wife make to give what they want to their kids and to each other.</span></p><p> Wed, 29 Jan 2014 01:17:58 +0000 Ben Trefny 38975 at A father reflects on the daily realities of parenting as a team Why working parents should strive for 50/50 partnership <p><span style="line-height: 1.5;">Joanna </span>Strober<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> is co-author of&nbsp;</span><em style="line-height: 1.5;">Getting to 50 50: How Working Parents Can Have it All</em><span style="line-height: 1.5;"> </span><em style="line-height: 1.5;">by Sharing it All</em><span style="line-height: 1.5;">. She and her co-author Sharon </span>Meers<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> are both working parents in the Bay Area, and they set out to write a guide for couples on how to share the work of parenting while prioritizing both of their careers. &nbsp;</span>Strober<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> spoke with </span>KALW’s<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> </span>Hana<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> Baba about what inspired her and </span>Meers<span style="line-height: 1.5;"> to write this book.</span></p><p> Wed, 29 Jan 2014 01:17:56 +0000 Hana Baba 38953 at Why working parents should strive for 50/50 partnership