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Editor's note: The author's last name has been withheld for privacy reasons.

When I was nine, my father started coming home late at night. He would walk through the door like nothing was wrong. But I knew something was. My mother would shout uncontrollably at him, and even threaten divorce. But these were empty words - my mother couldn’t afford to get a divorce, nor was it socially acceptable in Chinese culture.

I later learned that because of him, my mother’s bank account was cancelled, and all her hard-earned money was gambled away at the horse races.

Living a balanced life requires an early morning for KALW's executive news editor Ben Trefny. It takes getting up before 6am to prepare lunch, and then breakfast, for his family, and that's just the start. In this commentary, he reflects upon the efforts he and his working wife make to give what they want to their kids and to each other.

Joanna Strober is co-author of Getting to 50 50: How Working Parents Can Have it All by Sharing it All. She and her co-author Sharon Meers are both working parents in the Bay Area, and they set out to write a guide for couples on how to share the work of parenting while prioritizing both of their careers.  Strober spoke with KALW’s Hana Baba about what inspired her and Meers to write this book.